人都在看自己沒有的,去羨慕別人擁有的,卻不知道路途荊棘坎坷,所做的每一分努力隨時都可能化為泡影,越是努力,越是想要放棄,就像打拳一樣,出拳之前先傷自己,還不知道打出去的,是不是幻影。知名旅人作家雪兒在最新推出的作品《生活中,選擇留下合適舒服的人 》中,寫下關於自己、友情、職場、親情、愛情的建言,雪兒表現:「此書寫給一群跟我有同樣的靈魂,不再逼自己長大變好的人。」

Beautiful young Asian woman in sportswear drinking protein shake after exercise, relaxing at home.

Beautiful young Asian woman in sportswear drinking protein shake after exercise, relaxing at home.

面對自己

  • 孤獨也是一種人生的累積,我在適應孤獨的情緒。
  • 丟掉,還可以撿回,但一直不丟就沒有空間容納新的美好。

面對友情

  • 朋友不是老的好,留下不走的才重要,某些生腫瘤的友情,必須即時放下,接續日子才能好過。
  • 「friends」其中也有一個「end」,結束一段友誼,另外一段才會展開。
Close up of a group of friends on the beach taking a selfie together

Close up of a group of friends on the beach taking a selfie together

面對職場

  • 認清工作就只是生存,職場生活會比較好過。
  • 別期待一間公司養活你一輩子,拋棄你時他才不會記得當初的諾言。
Busy concentrated young Asian woman working from home, working on laptop till late in the evening at home. Home office, overworked, deadline and lifestyle concept

Busy concentrated young Asian woman working from home, working on laptop till late in the evening at home. Home office, overworked, deadline and lifestyle concept

面對親情

  • 家人,偶爾也要做回陌生人,才能讓關係拉近。
  • 有些沒辦法彼此改變的,就默默的,不要去改變。
A young Mum bends over to her daughters height, and wraps her arms around her. They both wear thick winter coats as they brace the cold weather, and warm up in a loving embrace.

A young Mum bends over to her daughters height, and wraps her arms around her. They both wear thick winter coats as they brace the cold weather, and warm up in a loving embrace.

面對愛情

  • 脫單很重要嗎?一個人都過不好,怎麼能嚮往兩個人的幸福。
  • 想結婚的就去結婚,想單身就維持單身,反正到最後你們都會後悔。

來源:時報出版/《生活中,選擇留下合適舒服的人 》 雪兒著

原文轉自《VOGUE》台灣版

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